They simply told me that they would back me with whatever I wanted to do and they trusted me to make my own decision about what was best for my life. This is very important! Them trusting me to do what’s best in my life was something that upline doesn’t do (they tell you Quixtar is the only way, period). Telling your kid that they have the ability to decide what’s best for the future and they are capable of choosing any path is big.
Their upline, business friends, and CD’s will teach them Quixtar is the only way. Most IBO’s end up thinking negative people (anybody who isn’t in Quixtar) always tell them Quixtar is a horrible way.
You should play a neutral role and say that whatever you decide is the best way. This leaves the door open for them to ask your advice if and when they question the business.
I could tell my parents hated Quixtar. However, they didn’t alienate me by speaking openly about their negative feelings. They dropped hints like “I wish you would spend more time with your family and old friends.” They also didn’t make things easy on me by giving me money to spend on the system.
Best ways to support your kid even though you hate Quixtar:
1) Don’t enable them financially. If they want to put on the big boy britches to build a business make them figure out money themselves.
Finances are an endurance sport. With Quixtar, your kid will surely get tired of losing and start to question what they’re doing (took me 2 years). Their credit score will recover eventually.
2) Tell them you’ll support their dreams no matter what. Always be on their side.
3) Drop subtle questions and/or hints that lets them know you may consider Quixtar as not the best opportunity in the world …
refrain from being outright negative (e.g. I know you said that in 2008 you would clear 50K, do you think that will happen? How much profit did you clear for 2007 on your taxes? Is the business growing as fast as you would like?
#3 is tricky to do while still being supportive. That’s why you have to subtly let them know you think Quixtar is a bad deal for them. Don’t Quixtar bash. I always felt like my parents were still “on my side” even though they I could tell they didn’t necessary like Quixtar. Because they were silently against Quixtar I felt like I could go to them. When I started doubting my future as a super awesome double platinum triple Diamond IBO I went to them first. It was a confusing time and young people will look to their parents when they start questioning upline.
My parents also asked me what I would like to do with my life if Quixtar didn’t exist. I hadn’t really thought of that because I was so brainwashed into thinking Quixtar was it, the only way. Ask your kid this question and be excited to support them if they would do this. Doing anything besides Quixtar is scary for IBO’s… but if you plant that seed and show support it will empower them to do something else